I have been around long enough to witness the do i tell or not tell dilemma. So when you do something behind your partner’s back what should you do. The general consensus is yes tell them, confess, they deserve the truth and it will set you free.
But is that really how it should be? I think confessions are an act of selfishness and here is why. My thoughts are you did something behind someone’s back, that suggests to me that you didn’t want them to know about it, for whatever reason. So why decide you want them to know now. Unless it was a planned surprise for the person there are only 2 maybe 3 reasons why you confess. First reason is guilt..you are feeling guilty about what you did so you want let it out, right? it will make you feel better? Wrong, you are being selfish, you did something wrong, you can’t bear the weight of it all so you share the load, you hurt someone on purpose so you can get absolution. Second reason is revenge, this person has now turn around and done something that hurt you, or they are treating you badly or walking around like they own the world and you want bring them down you wanna hurt them too. Again SELFISH. Last reason, and this only applies if what was done was in a romantic relationship and involved cheating, you confess so the person makes a decision for you. You are confused, you found yourself in someone else’s arms and now you cant decide who you want to be with because you still madly in love with your boo. So you confess, if they forgive you, you stay if not you go to the other person…hmm selfish.
why am i thinking about this, i have secrets, lots of secrets. I don’t ever really care to talk about them nor do i ever have an inclination to confess. But there is this secret, its juicy actually makes me giggle..but few people around me would be crushed however one of them is really testing me, i wanna tell it for the second reason and that reason only.
But i wont.